Sex

Today was by far the best DAY of project yet. I had a day off and so did one of my roommates and since I work at the Holiday Inn, I get a discount at a golf course. So for $27 I played 18 holes of golf, with a cart, and clubs. For those of you who don't know, that's a pretty good deal. Tonight the speakers talked about sex. Always an awkward feeling with this word. I know many of you when saw the title sex were probably feeling a little weird about this blog. Tonights talk was based off of Proverbs 5. It explained how sex is a powerful gift from God. Proverbs 5 is a father speaking to a son. I suggest reading this before, along, or after this blog. Solomon is begging his son to listen to him about sex and how it can be a blessing or how you can really mess things up with it. Sexual sin is enticing and appealing. Read verse 3 for a description. It is described as sweet and smooth, examples today would be porn, hooking up with opposite sex, and other sexual sin. "Looks", but it is NOT sweet and smooth, in the end it is bitter in sharp (verse 4) it had a bad ending. It explains that sex not in the context of marriage with your spouse leads to death, not immediate physical death, but it could ruin you. Through sickness and it has you miss out on the good things that God intended it for. Proverbs explains to not give in and avoid even temptation at all cost, it says to take the path far from it. Don't even flirt with that line. Famous line, but if you play with fire you're going to get burned, same idea. Proverbs gives three basic reason why we should stray from it, 1. Profound personal loss, 2. Painful regret, 3. Public disgrace. All fairly self explanatory. Again sex is powerful, and it can be a blessing or cause misery. God explains in verses 15-23 how sex is meant to be for 1 man and 1 women only and in marriage, no exceptions. I'm not going to go into any more detail on that, but it is clear cut about sex. He created it for this one reason and for it to be great. Guidelines to help you stay strong emotionally, are to guard your heart, meaning that you need to have personal boundaries set. Second it guard your time, don't be stupid with it and put yourself in harms way. Surround yourself with Christian brothers and sisters who will help you. Lastly guard your savior, meaning your heart is ultimately for God and don't turn your girlfriend/boyfriend into an idol. Jesus stays number 1 and He can only meet all your needs. Physical guidelines are 5 simple things. careful with kisses, no need for making out. Horizontal is horrible, there is no need for it if you're not married. Beware of the bonus room, meaning don't be in a room where you are completely exclusive and have plenty of alone time together. Neck and knees are off limits. Lastly hardcore accountability, someone who will ask you the though questions, and not a best friend who it will be easy to tell. Someone it would be embarrassing to admit things too. These guidelines are for unmarried people in a relationship. God did not make sex to be a burden or for something for you to miss out on, but rather a delightful intimacy for you and your spouse to enjoy. That's enough sex talk for tonight. Please keep praying, because when people lack sleep frustration builds and sometimes it is taken out when it should't be. So pray for all of us here at SBP.

Serving Him,

Daniel